从古至今，男左女右是一种俗成的规则，人们仍遵从这个习惯，比如：结婚照上，
新郎总在左新娘总在右。
在中医，当医师为病人把脉时，也严格遵守“男左女右” 的规则。
男患者先搭左手，取其气脉。
女患者先搭右手，取其血脉。
如果不依这规律，将会出现“阴错阳差”的现象，绝对不可以颠倒。
专家认为，这源于古代哲学思想- 阴阳
最初“阴阳”指物体对日光的方向，朝着太阳一面为“阳”， 背对太阳一面为“阴”。
然后又用这观念解释宇宙中一切相互对立，同时又相互消长的事物。
自然界的一切事物都能用阴阳来解释。
比如：天与地，日与月 等等。
但从男女两性来说，一般认为，
男性较刚烈，被定为阳，排左。
女性较温柔，被定为阴，排右。
久而久之，就形成男左女右的习惯了。
Reference：李朵（2006）历史面面观。台湾企鹅图书有限公司。
Thursday, July 05, 2012
过生日吹蜡烛从何而来？
这个问题恼了我好久。每次家人朋友的生日都有蛋糕，然后吹蜡烛，许愿。可是，这个习俗从哪来？我终于找到了答案。
由来：（Ancient Greece）古希腊
古希腊人非常崇拜月亮女神，Artemis。
所以每年在她的生日，古希腊人将会举行庆祝活动。他们会把面粉和蜂蜜做成的蛋糕摆放神祭坛上，还会在上面插满点燃的蜡烛。因为古希腊人们人为蜡烛的光芒代表月亮的清辉。这样也代表他们对女神的崇敬之情。
在后来，古希腊人就在庆贺孩子的生日时，也在蛋糕上插上点燃的蜡烛，并增加吹蜡烛的习俗。因为他们相信燃烧的蜡烛又神秘的力量，如果这时寿星默默的许愿，并且一口气吹灭所有的蜡烛，他的愿望便能够实现。
直到今天，这种有趣的活动仍在全世界流星着。
References: 李朵（2006）习俗样样通。 台湾企鹅图书有限公司。
由来：（Ancient Greece）古希腊
古希腊人非常崇拜月亮女神，Artemis。
所以每年在她的生日，古希腊人将会举行庆祝活动。他们会把面粉和蜂蜜做成的蛋糕摆放神祭坛上，还会在上面插满点燃的蜡烛。因为古希腊人们人为蜡烛的光芒代表月亮的清辉。这样也代表他们对女神的崇敬之情。
在后来，古希腊人就在庆贺孩子的生日时，也在蛋糕上插上点燃的蜡烛，并增加吹蜡烛的习俗。因为他们相信燃烧的蜡烛又神秘的力量，如果这时寿星默默的许愿，并且一口气吹灭所有的蜡烛，他的愿望便能够实现。
直到今天，这种有趣的活动仍在全世界流星着。
References: 李朵（2006）习俗样样通。 台湾企鹅图书有限公司。
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
无缘
从小，母亲这个两个字对我来说是无缘的。当我懂事以来，"母亲”以不和我的生命有任何关系了。
曾经有朋友问我，你会想找回‘母亲’并于她相认吗？我的答案是：不会。
并不是我恨她，而是我们是无缘的。
我的父亲对她还是有怨恨的，我不能说服他放掉因为我不是当事人，我不能体会夫妻离异的感受。
我是个冷血动物，不会把爱表现出来， 但是，我很爱我的父亲，奶奶，叔叔，姑姑和婶婶们，因为他们含辛茹苦的把我们抚养成人，教导做人的道理，更重要的是他们抚平了我的伤口。
曾经，我问我自己为什么‘她’不要我，这个问题搞得我好痛苦，却没有了答案。
想了好久，就不想了，没有了母，却有了其他亲人的爱，我已经是很幸运的。
有人说母爱是无可代替的，我倒不着么认为：因为母爱是可以被替代的。哈哈哈。
当你没有了那份爱的瞬间，你会很彷徨，无奈，生气，伤心，难过，我可是费了好大的奶力说服自己：我不是一个被母亲遗弃的孩子，而是天注定母亲是我生命的一位过客。一位给了我生命却和我没有交际的陌生人。这样看待事情却让我松了一口闷气。这口闷气待在我的心里好多年，我终于把这口闷气给吐出了。
当然，时间是最好的疗伤药。
谁说单亲家庭的孩子是不幸的， 这样想是错。
琪芳的‘智囊’ ： 开朗，知足的心智才能带你远离悲哀。
哈哈哈，我觉得我好像个老头子，可是老实告诉你：我有了这种‘开通’
我现在过得更快乐，幸福。
琪芳的至理名言：疯疯癫癫的过日子。
曾经有朋友问我，你会想找回‘母亲’并于她相认吗？我的答案是：不会。
并不是我恨她，而是我们是无缘的。
我的父亲对她还是有怨恨的，我不能说服他放掉因为我不是当事人，我不能体会夫妻离异的感受。
我是个冷血动物，不会把爱表现出来， 但是，我很爱我的父亲，奶奶，叔叔，姑姑和婶婶们，因为他们含辛茹苦的把我们抚养成人，教导做人的道理，更重要的是他们抚平了我的伤口。
曾经，我问我自己为什么‘她’不要我，这个问题搞得我好痛苦，却没有了答案。
想了好久，就不想了，没有了母，却有了其他亲人的爱，我已经是很幸运的。
有人说母爱是无可代替的，我倒不着么认为：因为母爱是可以被替代的。哈哈哈。
当你没有了那份爱的瞬间，你会很彷徨，无奈，生气，伤心，难过，我可是费了好大的奶力说服自己：我不是一个被母亲遗弃的孩子，而是天注定母亲是我生命的一位过客。一位给了我生命却和我没有交际的陌生人。这样看待事情却让我松了一口闷气。这口闷气待在我的心里好多年，我终于把这口闷气给吐出了。
当然，时间是最好的疗伤药。
谁说单亲家庭的孩子是不幸的， 这样想是错。
琪芳的‘智囊’ ： 开朗，知足的心智才能带你远离悲哀。
哈哈哈，我觉得我好像个老头子，可是老实告诉你：我有了这种‘开通’
我现在过得更快乐，幸福。
琪芳的至理名言：疯疯癫癫的过日子。
Friday, June 22, 2012
Six month of extra stress
Hi hi, long time no see......Lately I had not been able to write my blog.... The first six months of 2012 was a stressful period for me, coz I was assigned with a project and it was a brand new thing to me. It was a brand new experience for me but I don't enjoy that feeling at all. I was then told that this type of project is not something new and it will be considered in part of our working life in the future. This is really easy to be said then done. Everyone have has their own assignment and priorities, the workload itself is enough to burden you down and this project is considered as an extra. BUT we should be positive in our working attitude. " If you don't have overwhelming work assignments, I am very sure that we will be extremely positive"
It is very sad when you are struggling to do your very best in this, someone else whom they are very good at it, prosposed extra theme and work for you. How should I deal with them? The " who" even wanted report every month on how the project was progressing......... This is totally inhumane.... hahahaha..... Anyway I ignored... Everyone ignored...
I actually learned that.... you are a perfectionist but others are not...... you want to achieve the best outcome...... you gotta work extra hard in a positive mind set, coz you cannot impose the same value on your team members.
It is never easy to do a project that required 6 months of intense discussion, thinking, calculation and data collection.
But anyway, it was a great learning process but I wished I have the chance to work as a member instead of a leader. Very tiring.
Hahaha, I had finished presentation and finally I can enjoy my next half year in a Stress- Free state....
It is very sad when you are struggling to do your very best in this, someone else whom they are very good at it, prosposed extra theme and work for you. How should I deal with them? The " who" even wanted report every month on how the project was progressing......... This is totally inhumane.... hahahaha..... Anyway I ignored... Everyone ignored...
I actually learned that.... you are a perfectionist but others are not...... you want to achieve the best outcome...... you gotta work extra hard in a positive mind set, coz you cannot impose the same value on your team members.
It is never easy to do a project that required 6 months of intense discussion, thinking, calculation and data collection.
But anyway, it was a great learning process but I wished I have the chance to work as a member instead of a leader. Very tiring.
Hahaha, I had finished presentation and finally I can enjoy my next half year in a Stress- Free state....
Sunday, March 04, 2012
My Empress Dowager Nearly went lost in TTSH
I nearly suffered a emotional heart attack........
I had brought my Empress dowager to Tan Tock Seng Hospital for her follow up appointment . It was a swift appointment, just spent only an hour registering, consulting the doctor and proceeded to payment. I was feeling kind of hungry, so both of us went to the atrium to get food, instead of B2 level to await for my uncle to fetch us....
As usual, anyone who are related, knows that she is a very thrifty person. When she heard that I wanted to buy food, she suddenly got angry with me! " Why spend money to buy food, we are going home, go home and eat!" I was angry too, I surely have the right to choose whatever food i want to eat, and Today, I don't want to eat at home, and anyway I wanted to have some snacks before my dinner and before I feel faint!
I practically ignored her anger and insisted to buy ....... thus I told her to rest on the chair and sit there before i come. I turned my back and went to queue for the snacks.
Just after I bought my snacks, I went to look for her, to my horror! She was not sitting there. I turned around , hopping that I will catch glimpse of her before she venture even further!
To my disappointment, she was now where to be found! I started to panic! I started to mumble to myself " Where did she go! Toilet ? .....???? My mind went blank!....
" Ok, Anita, don't panic! she can't go that far!" I was trying very hard to reassure myself that she might have go to the place where we had arranged to wait for him there to fetch us. But My head rejected that possiblitity that she was able to go down two escalator level on her own., but I still followed that trail and run up and down like crazy !
Again, I told myself to stop panicking, cool down and think where she could have gone to!
Finally I decided to walk towards the opposite direction and I might find her !
True enough, I found her at the main entrance lobby of the hospital ! I was so mad when I saw her and she some more said " Ah yoh, why are u so slow!''
I tell you, I heaved a sign of relief and I started to ventilate............ at her! I wanted to really yelled at her, but I can't do that with so many people around!
I hold her, took multiple counts of deep breathing exercise before I lowered my voice and started to scold her!!!!!! (in teochew)
" Ah ma, I told you to sit down and wait for me, and why are you so disobedient, ignoring what I told you!
She still talked back : " I told I am going to wait for Ah Swee ( my uncle), wait he can't see us!"
" You are standing at the wrong place, so no matter how long you stand here, he still can't see you!"
" I am definitely standing at the correct place, everytime he fetch us from here wat!"
" I am sorry to inform you that you are wrong and this is the wrong place!"
I was practically scoldng her and nagging on our way to the correct place to await for my uncle.......
" Next time, if you don't co-operate, I will bring a rope along and tie you on the chair when I go and buy things!"
She later admitted her mistake and promised to listen to my instructions the next time!
See, this how dangerous it can be, when you bring a stubborn elderly who always asume she is always right, you are always wrong !
Elderly person can get lost, especially when they seldom go out on their own and every where look similarly the same to them ! Different place, but they can view them as the same.
I had brought my Empress dowager to Tan Tock Seng Hospital for her follow up appointment . It was a swift appointment, just spent only an hour registering, consulting the doctor and proceeded to payment. I was feeling kind of hungry, so both of us went to the atrium to get food, instead of B2 level to await for my uncle to fetch us....
As usual, anyone who are related, knows that she is a very thrifty person. When she heard that I wanted to buy food, she suddenly got angry with me! " Why spend money to buy food, we are going home, go home and eat!" I was angry too, I surely have the right to choose whatever food i want to eat, and Today, I don't want to eat at home, and anyway I wanted to have some snacks before my dinner and before I feel faint!
I practically ignored her anger and insisted to buy ....... thus I told her to rest on the chair and sit there before i come. I turned my back and went to queue for the snacks.
Just after I bought my snacks, I went to look for her, to my horror! She was not sitting there. I turned around , hopping that I will catch glimpse of her before she venture even further!
To my disappointment, she was now where to be found! I started to panic! I started to mumble to myself " Where did she go! Toilet ? .....???? My mind went blank!....
" Ok, Anita, don't panic! she can't go that far!" I was trying very hard to reassure myself that she might have go to the place where we had arranged to wait for him there to fetch us. But My head rejected that possiblitity that she was able to go down two escalator level on her own., but I still followed that trail and run up and down like crazy !
Again, I told myself to stop panicking, cool down and think where she could have gone to!
Finally I decided to walk towards the opposite direction and I might find her !
True enough, I found her at the main entrance lobby of the hospital ! I was so mad when I saw her and she some more said " Ah yoh, why are u so slow!''
I tell you, I heaved a sign of relief and I started to ventilate............ at her! I wanted to really yelled at her, but I can't do that with so many people around!
I hold her, took multiple counts of deep breathing exercise before I lowered my voice and started to scold her!!!!!! (in teochew)
" Ah ma, I told you to sit down and wait for me, and why are you so disobedient, ignoring what I told you!
She still talked back : " I told I am going to wait for Ah Swee ( my uncle), wait he can't see us!"
" You are standing at the wrong place, so no matter how long you stand here, he still can't see you!"
" I am definitely standing at the correct place, everytime he fetch us from here wat!"
" I am sorry to inform you that you are wrong and this is the wrong place!"
I was practically scoldng her and nagging on our way to the correct place to await for my uncle.......
" Next time, if you don't co-operate, I will bring a rope along and tie you on the chair when I go and buy things!"
She later admitted her mistake and promised to listen to my instructions the next time!
See, this how dangerous it can be, when you bring a stubborn elderly who always asume she is always right, you are always wrong !
Elderly person can get lost, especially when they seldom go out on their own and every where look similarly the same to them ! Different place, but they can view them as the same.
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